Banyo

Banyo

Sunday, January 31, 2016

Hello and Goodbye!

Yes I know it has been forever since I blogged last! I vow to do better! Really!

A few weeks ago, our lovely church held a send off party for us. It was amazing! It was so special to have so many people that truly love and support us in one place cheering us on and praying for us! Below is what I read to the group. Since many of our loved ones and supporters could not attend I wanted to share it here.




As a missionary, you learn to introduce yourself and you learn to say goodbye. Then you repeat the cycle over and over again like Bill Murray in Ground Hog Day.

As a missionary, I am learning to introduce myself. In like 3 languages. This forces me to ask, “well who am I?”

To others I am “the missionary” or “that missionary.” In American churches being “that missionary” means I am on the track to sainthood or something. Yeah, that identity certainty doesn't match the “me” I know. Really, there is nothing special about me that qualifies me to be a missionary other than saying “yes” to the call. And honestly, sometimes that yes is accompanied by kicking and screaming.

To people that do not know Jesus, and even some that do, I am the “crazy one” who is moving to a land that yes has malaria and no does not have Netflix. Yeah, crazy, weird- I can own that.

In Africa, I am the “white person.” No really, people call me “white person” to my face like it is my name. “Nasara- Nasara- white person.” This is really jarring sometimes because some days I forget that I look so different and I am like, “Yeah, I'm blending.” Totally not blending. So what does it mean for me to be white? And what responsibilities does that entail for me? God and I are working on my understanding of that. Am I white? Yeah, unless I am trying to get a good deal in the market then I tell them in Fufulde that I am Fulani at heart and that I do not pay white tourists prices.

Amongst some of my Muslim neighbors, I am sometimes called “Alhajja” or one who has been on the pilgrimage to Mecca. I have never been to Mecca. It is a respectful term. Other times I am called, “infidel.” The best though is when I am called “friend.”

To missionary kids, I am “Aunt Lori.” This is awesome. When separated from family, God surrounds me with an extended one. I am loved and entrusted to love others that have left their homes. I love this “me.”

Ultimately, it is not about me. I am a just sinner- a sinner saved by grace. Grace that is too good to keep to myself. When my patients ask, “Why have you come here? Why do you love me like this?” I respond, “Because Jesus loves me and you need to know that He loves you too.”

So hello, my name is Lori or you can call me Daada Charlie and I am not a saint, I am a little weird, I often don't blend in, I have never been to Mecca, I prefer you call me friend or Aunt instead of infidel, and I am loved by Jesus. That ladies and gentlemen is my introduction.

Now for the goodbye. I hate goodbyes. I really would rather just say, “see you later” and pretend we will see each other tomorrow instead of years from now.

As our time for departure nears, more and more people ask if I am excited. The reality is that before the adventure begins, there is loss and grieving. Everyday is a different “goodbye.” The last time I will eat sushi, the last time I will buy meat without flies swarming on it, the last time I will drive a car and so on. And let's not even talk about the last Chick-fil-A or diet coke!

And then there is the saying goodbye to my twin nieces who are juniors in high school knowing that I will miss their high school graduation and next time I see them, they will be adults. I am grieve all of the precious moments that will be missed.

Goodbyes are also hard because there is no adequate way express what you all mean to me. There is no way to thank you for blessings you all pour over me and over my family. But if it is okay, I would like to try. Warning there will probably be a lot of ugly crying. Oh I cried ugly tears when I wrote this.

To our church family, this year home has been so refreshing. There is nothing like worshiping in your own heart language especially alongside people that love the Lord and love each other! You have supported us and loved us well. Thank you.

To our friends- to old friends from before there were grey hairs on my head and to those that took a chance this year on a new friendship despite knowing that we would be leaving, thank you. Thank you for your love and encouragement. You believed in us when we didn't believe in ourselves. Thank you for sharing your lives with us and for being our tribe.

To our supporters, let me just tell you every time I questioned “Does God really want us to Go?” We would get a check in the mail. Like that day. Big checks. I think in every thank you note I wrote, I mentioned that we were overwhelmed by the generosity shown to us. More than just your generosity, your support speaks to your faithful obedience to God's leading to be apart of His mission. We are in this together. We are jumping into the well, but you are holding the ropes. We could not do this without you. And p.s. You are welcome to visit at any time!

Now to our family, thank you for loving the Lord enough to let us go even though I know it takes every ounce of strength you have not to lock us in the basement. It is easy to say “yay missionaries go do your thing around the world” until that missionary is your son and his totally awesome wife not to mention the cutest little girl in the world.

So to end, I would like to quote the great theologian Winnie the Pooh, “How lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.” Thank you all for making it so hard to say goodbye!

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